Kind reader, let us give your eyeballs a quick exercise. I want you to throw a speedy glance all over the page you’re reading – yes, take in the Menu at the top and also the Widget Sidebar to your right – and tell me if you can spy a little bird icon anywhere. Or that omnipresent “F” representing the “book” I don’t like. You won’t find anything because I lost their custody in a swift, no-mess non-divorce with Social Media. You know what I got in return? Time, knack of talking to myself and the ability to look up while walking or sitting at a restaurant instead of burying my nose in my phone.
I hate it when people who sit at a table with friends or family or colleagues are more engrossed in their phones than the people around.
Social Media and I had a very brief, disappointing affair a long time ago and we decided – mutually, of course – to forget about each other and pretend it never happened. I have held up my end of the deal beautifully – I deleted (yes, permanently) my Face”book” account, my Instagram account and refused to acknowledge the presence of Snapchat. I moved on and – I suppose, since we’re no longer in touch – so did Social Media.
People are shocked. They often repeatedly ask me the same thing (You’re not on Facebook?) despite my answer being the same at all times. It’s not that I am an introvert of a very high degree or that I have no friends at all. Nor am I a career criminal who’s trying to lay low. I just find it a waste of my time and energy and after the first few minutes of exciting navigation through the newness of it all, I am bored. My decision to abandon this particular ship was a quick one and I have never regretted it since.
I started this blog because I wanted to write. I wanted to write for me and to say what’s on my mind about the things I enjoy doing. Of course, there is a part of me – a big part, to be honest – that wants other people to read what I write. I want it to be acknowledged, appreciated, enjoyed. But in order for that to happen people need to know that it exists and while I may not like to admit it, Social Media is an incredibly powerful tool to make that happen.
This question bothered me a lot in the initial days of my blog: Should I just go back? I consulted a friend I met on a trip once – she had studied Social Media Marketing – and she was super excited about the whole thing. She thought that I should go all out and create accounts across all social media apps so that she could “easily” help promote my blog. She made it sound so easy and more importantly, so necessary. With no Facebook, no Instagram, no Tumblr, no Pinterest, she was convinced I was at a gross disadvantage.
I almost gave in. Almost. I thought about it a lot and realized that not much had changed since I turned my back on Social Media. I still have extremely low patience for it, no spare time and no inclination to waste my energies – or hers – behind this endeavor. In the end, we compromised – one social media platform. Twitter. Out of all the options, I felt that the one which puts a limit on the number of characters would be the least cumbersome. Given the desperate and often pathetic tweets I send out, I doubt it’s making much of a difference.
What’s your relationship with Social Media? Any skeletons rattling in that closet? Do share.
You can also read my first post under this banner here.